Renees Mommy is Here

I still remember the scene vividly. I was getting out of my car at the baby-sitters house and a little boy comes running out the door. The little boys begins to yell – Renees Mommy is here! I remember stopping in my tracks and thinking – Oh, that is who I am now – Renees Mommy. My whole identity is now Renees Mommy – or is it? As a Christian Working Mom I have multiple roles, I am Renees Mommy and Zacharys Mommy as well. I am Johns wife, Betty and Eldreds daughter, Karens sister, church worker, school helper, a therapist, professional coach, and a child of God. Do you often wonder who you are? Where do you fit in …

The Magic Ratio of Positive and Negative Moments

According to the Nobel Prize-winning scientist Daniel Kahneman, each day we experience approximately 20,000 moments. A moment is defined as a few seconds in which our brain records an experience. The quality of our days is determined by how our brains recognize and categorize our momentseither as positive, negative, or just neutral. Rarely do we remember neutral moments. There is no question that the memories of our lives are recorded in terms of positive and negative experiences. Now scientists propose that each day our brainsi.e., our thoughts and emotionskeep track of our positive and negative moments, and the resulting score contributes to our overall mood. Our emotional tone or mood is defined by the number of positive versus negative moments …

I Can’t Find My Homework, Mom!

Do you believe in asking God, or whatever higher power you choose to believe in, for the answers you need, when you need them? Read below for an enlightening story about my 11 year old daughter’s missing homework papers. The problem started when my daughter took a break from her homework to eat dinner. She asked me if she could take it in her room and work on it while watching TV. (Not a good idea, BTW). Even the best of us moms have our weak moments. :o) Anyhow, by the time dinner was over, there was no homework to be found. As with all lost items, I suggested the usual mom replies. “Retrace your steps.” “Think, where was the …

The Three-Ring Circus: 5 Tips for Single Moms Who Work

If you’re a single mom who works, you probably don’t have a lot of time to read, so let’s get right to the point. In addition to your salaried work, you’re a chauffer, a nurse, a psychotherapist, and an educator. It’s as though you’re not only the ringleader of your family, but you’re also the master juggler (of schedules), the tightrope walker (of finances), the lion tamer (of behavior), and the trapeze artist (as you swing from home to work and back again). Here are five tips to help you keep your sanity when the circus takes up permanent residence in your household. 1. Pick Your Battles As a 49-year-old single mom of a sixth grader, I’m just plain tired. …